The Nature of Intercourse
In a previous chapter it was stated that there exists a definite guide
for determining the readiness of a woman for intercourse. It is an unfailing
signal. Unless it clearly manifests itself, a woman has not been sufficiently
aroused and has not reached a high peak of her excitement prior to the sex act.
No intelligent or considerate lover should force intercourse until this signal
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This guide is the amount of slippery secretion that issues primarily from a
region just below the vaginal entrance and, secondarily, within the vagina. It
is a viscous, pale, transparent fluid, varying in texture. In some females,
particularly in those who have not borne children and in younger girls, it is
thinner in quality; generally, however, it is of about the same consistency. If
a woman has been thoroughly aroused, this emanation, provided by nature as a
necessary lubricant, can be distinctly felt upon stroking the vulva, and it
allows itself to be easily spread over the entire area. It flows from
Bartholin's glands, two small glands, located within the small lips and slightly
beneath the vaginal entrance. The vaginal interior will be found to contain a
similar secretion seeping from the uterus into the vaginal vault. This allows
the canal walls to become adequately coated and ease the friction caused by the
incessant motion of the male organ. The penis also emits a like substance, so
that lubrication does not depend exclusively upon the female organs. Since
Bartholin's glands are located in the lower part of the vulva, the fluid
naturally pools there. It must be brought up by the male finger to coat the
clitoris and surrounding area to avoid their chafing.
So long as a woman is excited, this fluid flows continuously and abundantly.
Every woman knows how moist and uncomfortable she may feel at times following
some minor intimacy. When she begins to cool, the flow ceases at once, the area
dries with surprising rapidity, and continued friction upon it will result in
This fluid must not be confused with the general moist-ness that is constant
about the interior and exterior genitals; no experienced man will so mistake it.
These areas consist of mucous membrane which must remain moist if dryness and
roughness are to be avoided. For that reason, the genital region will at all
times feel moist upon contact, but the moistness is of a light, watery
consistency which immediately dries with friction, whereas the other appears in
far greater quantity, increasing in amount as excitement increases, is
definitely slippery in body, and continues to flow so long as a woman requires
satisfying, should it be fifteen minutes or an hour. Unless this fluid issues in
unmistakable quantity, nature is indisputably indicating that a woman is not yet
prepared for intercourse and must be further stimulated; as soon as she is
ready, nature never fails to release the fluid in abundance.
There are occasional instances, however, when, in arranging for the proper
satisfaction of a woman, nature will require assistance. A considerate wife is
ready and willing at all times, barring certain days, to accommodate her
husband's sexual needs, just as the considerate husband is alert to fulfill his
wife's requirements. Such women and such men are usually happily married. This
type of wife goes even further. Although she may not feel in the mood for one
reason or another, her husband coming home from work may not be aware of this.
Since she senses an amorous mood on his part, she either does not make her
feelings known or deprecates them at bedtime. She may even initiate the
preliminaries herself. The consequence is that, despite all the proper
observance of foreplay, particularly with a woman of the lowly sensitive type,
the husband will discover when his hand reaches the genital area that the fluid
has not yet started to flow and try as he may, he cannot induce it to flow. He
will also discover, as he continues to stroke the genitals, that he cannot
produce a sensation in the clitoris, that the area becomes dry; and he will
observe obvious twinges of very definite pain due to chafing if he persists.
Of course, the proper thing to do is to abandon intimacy for that night; if the
wife is not aroused, as indicated by the failure of the fluid to flow, she will
not be disturbed by a discontinued relationship. However, if he fails to desist,
it is understandable; he is excited, and there is no doubt that his wife, who
has already proved her thoughtfulness, will insist upon his satisfying himself.
The solution is very simple, and will result in complete satisfaction all
around. A forefinger dipped in Vaseline, cold cream, hand lotion, or similar
convenient substance, and applied to the externals, will lubricate the area so
that without pain to his wife he can devote himself to a stimulation of the
clitoris, which in time will respond by developing sensation. However, no woman
in a normal mood will ever require an artificial lubricant, and notwithstanding
any advice to the contrary, an artificial lubricant should never be used as a
constant or general practice. The natural flowing of the fluid is a man's best
guide to the emotional pitch of his partner, and the indiscriminate use of
artificial lubricants circumvents the very thing that nature has sought to
provide: a foolproof signal as to the opportune ness of the intercourse.
Furthermore, something is decidedly wrong either with a husband's technique or
his wife's physical condition if artificial lubricants must constantly be
It is now assumed that the woman is well lubricated and ready for the
intercourse. How does she respond? Let us first consider the highly passionate
type. It is in this phase of the relationship more than in any other that such a
female distinguishes herself from the majority and makes it difficult for any
man to delay his own orgasm; she may require five to thirty minutes or even more
to satisfy herself, depending upon the extent of her passion. Since, as is
explained in a chapter dealing with self-control on the part of the male, the
masculine instinct is to achieve a speedy orgasm, it is obvious that his
self-restraint will be abnormally taxed.
To begin with, a highly passionate woman requires no clitoral stimulation
whatever during intercourse itself, since she is a mass of genital sensation
internally and externally. Furthermore, her type of orgasm differs materially
from that of others, which a subsequent diagram will illustrate clearly. She
experiences what may be described as a sustained orgasm and almost from the
moment the penis is inserted until the end of the period required for her
satisfaction, she undergoes a continuous sensation of rapture which gradually
bores into her nervous system and eventually results in satiety, swooning,
sobbing, or the inability for further copulation. Any of these four reactions is
immediately heightened by the male orgasm regardless of when it occurs, and a
simultaneous climax need not be considered, since her entire sensation is
practically one sustained orgasm. Furthermore, any highly sensitive woman can
experience all four reactions over a period of time, not necessarily during one
relationship, but a different one on different occasions; these represent merely
the four levels of excitement. Although it is unusual for a girl or woman to
experience more than one or two consistently, one can encounter women who travel
the entire range.
Satiety usually requires the longest time to achieve; the woman involved seems
better conditioned to withstand the height of sensation than do women of the
other three levels. Hence, she can revel in her excitement until her appetite is
thoroughly satisfied. She herself, rather than her nervous system, brings the
relationship to an end.
Swooning comes next in time, because in this instance a woman withstands the
sensation, craving more and more, until nature finally intrudes by throwing her
into a faint.
Sobbing follows, but not far behind; the woman herself suddenly breaks off the
relationship in a wild, uncontrollable burst of tears which shakes her
completely. She requires several minutes of tender quieting.
Finally, and covering relatively the shortest period, is the simple inability
further to withstand sensation. In this case, the woman is unable to allow it to
carry her as far as the swooning or sobbing stage; after having asked her
partner a number of times previously to desist for a moment, she finally directs
him to stop altogether.
Those readers who have ever laughed themselves into a fit of crying will
recognize that it is characteristic to laugh at a certain level for a time, the
level rising until the limit of endurance is reached. Then, one finds the
laughter automatically changing to tears and becoming disagreeable.
Furthermore, at no time during a sex relationship, when passion is at its peak
or approaching it, will the countenances of either man or woman ever take on an
appearance of pleasurable or peaceful relaxation. To the contrary, the features
are distorted as if the partners were undergoing severe pain rather than
experiencing the most exquisitely delightful of all sensations.
For the benefit of those women who form the majority and who may wonder how
orgasm can drive a woman to tears, it should be stated it is common knowledge
that tears can be produced by a reaction diametrically opposed to sorrow. The
sensation of joy so frequently experienced when women and children, long
separated, are reunited is also accompanied by tears. It is not to be wondered
at, then, that those women who experience the pleasure of intense orgasm are
also uncontrollably moved to violent weeping.
All of these four levels may vary in length of time with different women. The
period may also vary for the same women, depending upon her mood. As a rule,
however, it is usually of consistent duration, unless shortened by the inability
of the male to delay his orgasm.
To a male unaccustomed to a violent climax, the situation is startling. One can
understand that he is shocked when a woman suddenly emits a series of piercing
screams loud enough to waken a neighborhood and to suggest that she is being
abused. His heart practically stands still. He experiences somewhat the same
reaction when a woman who is violently panting, gasping, scratching, and biting
suddenly heaves a tremendous sigh and becomes limp and insensible, or seemingly
so. Her partner's first thought is that she has suffered a heart attack and may
be dying. It would be a paralyzing experience for an uninitiated groom.
It is appropriate to describe, also, the emotional expression of this highly
passionate type during intercourse and prior to its discontinuance. A large
proportion of this group will whimper, emitting a sound similar to the whining a
child indulges in when he is denied something. It gives the impression that the
girl is in pain. Another large proportion will engage in whispered exclamations,
repeating them continuously throughout the intercourse. Others will alternately
ask the male to desist and proceed, being able to stand the sensation only in
spurts. Others, those who thoroughly satisfy themselves, make no sounds at all
but demand a continuous motion throughout. Others will dig and claw at the male
back with their fingers and nails, leaving painful scratches and even drawing
blood. It is impossible to have repeated relationships with such women without
confining their hands, which of course limits their expression, or without
wearing a heavy shirt. Many women will bite at the male mouth or breasts and
will break through the skin of the hand if it is placed in their mouths to
prevent even more serious damage. A large proportion will shout loudly enough to
be heard throughout an apartment or private dwelling, calling upon their mother
or uttering such exclamations as may occur to them as an outlet. As mentioned
before, a certain percentage will shriek and scream so piercingly as to cause an
investigation unless they rigidly control themselves by asking their lover to
desist. Others will draw their legs back and fling them forward as if trying
completely to absorb the male organ. There are women who prefer the male to
penetrate slowly and deeply, some who prefer the most rapid, violent movement
possible, and others who prefer early orgasm in the male because, following
this, the penis loses some of its rigidity, and this practically limp state
produces for them a more desirable sensation.
The size of the male organ is of no importance whatever to the vast majority of
women, whether they be moderately or highly passionate. A woman is interested
only in the ability of her partner to satisfy her regardless of how he may
accomplish it. Nor has the size of the vaginal canal any apparent effect upon
the excitement of a female. Some of the most highly passionate women are
constructed with extremely wide and long canals; while many others, with vaginas
almost as narrow following childbirth as before marriage, are completely devoid
of sensation other than that induced in the clitoris, and are only lowly
A wide canal is no indication that a woman has consorted with numbers of men.
Some canals are wide, some are narrow, some are long, and some are short. These
variations do make-a difference to the preferences of some men, but a male
should be able to adjust himself to whatever condition exists.
A man's physical build is a matter of minor importance to most women. There are
some, as has been said, who are irresistibly attracted to muscular men, and one
of less prominent proportions will never stimulate them as much.
The responsiveness during intercourse of women other than the highly passionate
falls into a relatively standard pattern of behavior, and varies little
throughout the group. At least half are sensitive only at the clitoris, the
vaginas of most being so insensitive that only the pressure of the male organ
within and the sensation that the canal is filled indicates the existence of
action. While the sensation of the penis moving within the vagina of the highly
sensitive and even, on occasion, of the moderately sensitive, is sufficient of
itself to produce orgasm, this condition alone never succeeds in creating
feeling in those of the lowly sensitive group.
There is, however, a strong mental reaction to the knowledge that the penis is
inserted, and this intensifies the female orgasm when it occurs. The thought
that an intimate and close connection has been attained, even though no direct
physical feeling exists, will heighten a climax almost doubly as against digital
contact with the clitoris alone. This is just another instance of the important
function the mind can play in improving sexual relationships.
With the lowly and moderately sensitive, intercourse is characterized by nothing
highly emotional either in the way of speech or behavior. It is accompanied by
an increasingly deep breathing; by an increased quivering which reaches its
height with the climax; by the inclination of the female to increase the tempo
of her genital rhythm as climax approaches; by the desire to engage in a long
passionate kiss held until the orgasm occurs; and at best by muted exclamations
of "oh, oh" as it does occur; although even here silence is usual unless the
orgasm is extremely intense. When a long, drawn-out "oh, . . ." indicates its
peak. As the sensation approaches the climax, there is also the tendency for the
female to strain her body as if to increase the pressure against the clitoris or
draw the penis deeper into the vagina.
This is the general behavior of the lowly and moderately sensitive during
intercourse itself. There is nothing extraordinary about it, and it resembles
that of the average male.
Although the majority of women sustain only one orgasm, and a great proportion
none at all, the author is convinced that a husband can definitely increase the
number if he goes about it properly and understands the peculiarities of the
clitoris. However, since one cannot guarantee a man's efficiency in this
respect, and since at the present time most women of the lowly and moderately
sensitive group sustain only one climax, the situation must be spoken of as it
is, not as it might be.