The Importance of Digital Contact
It may be wondered, since the penis is reputed to be the primarily
effective sexual organ of the male, why the author stresses the importance of
finger contact with the clitoris in producing the female orgasm. The sad fact is
that!, from a practical standpoint, the penis is only one of the instruments
creating sensation in the female, and its greatest value lies as a mental
stimulant and organ of reproduction, not as a necessary medium of her sexual
pleasure. The truth is that even as a reproductive organ it is not
indispensable; many women have been artificially inseminated.
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Although the penis is regarded as the sole conveyer of pleasure for the female,
the disillusioning fact remains that the forefinger is a most useful asset in
man's contact with the opposite sex, and that the highly vaunted male organ
requires much assistance as an instrument of woman's sexual pleasure.
It is time that this matter was faced. It is insistence on making the penis do
something it cannot generally do that is responsible for a major proportion of
sexual incompatibility. Also, it is difficult to believe that nature intended
the penis to be the sole instrument of pleasure for women. She created both male
and female with desire, then made it necessary for the male to obtain his
satisfaction by inserting his organ within the recesses of a woman. Once it was
there, nature apparently realized that the male would persist until ejaculation
occurred; nature thus achieved her objective. If the woman obtained any pleasure
as a by-product, well and good. If not, it was simply unfortunate.
Consequently, it is the author's opinion that whatever is done as the result of
man's personal wish to intensify the pleasure of intercourse for a woman must be
done with little co-operation on nature's part.
To satisfy many women, a man must resort to artificial stimulation; a normal
penis and a normal clitoris cannot as a rule contact each other. When it is said
that the penis and clitoris cannot contact each other, it is meant that they
cannot do so with any degree of comfort or convenience to the male, or with any
hope of satisfactory intercourse. If the penis is fully inserted in the vagina,
it is nowhere near the clitoris; the penis is entirely within, and the clitoris
is entirely without. In order to retain its position in the vagina and at the
same time contact the clitoris, the penis must be arched almost into a backward
semi-circle. Accomplishing this represents a form of torture.
Even assuming it could be achieved with infinite pleasure, a small penis would
slip completely out of the vagina; only a portion of the head could remain
inside, and full movement, always retaining contact with the clitoris, would
allow the male organ to enter the canal little more than an inch. An inch in a
straining position against lubricated walls would allow no purchase whatever,
and the penis would invariably slip out. Even if we assume the contrary, what
pleasure is involved for either party in utilizing only one inch of a canal
perhaps three inches in length? If the tip of the clitoris were larger than it
is, the problem would be immeasurably reduced. However, such a condition in a
woman is a rare abnormality and usually necessitates an operation. Constant
friction imposed against it by walking or tight clothing would keep her in a
state of continuous excitement.
Consequently, since constant clitoral contact, or even any clitoral contact,
with the penis is a rare possibility; and since with most women clitoral
friction is necessary to produce sensation, there remains but one agency in
intercourse—the finger. Of course, perfect clitoral contact with the male organ
can be established if no attempt is made to penetrate the vagina. In this case,
the male organ remains completely outside and extends past the vaginal entrance,
coming in contact only with the external genitals. This will produce orgasm in
both the female and the male, but it is not perfect intercourse; that vital
mental element of true intimacy is lacking for the man unless he controls his
orgasm until after his partner has been satisfied, and then attains it in the
normal way. This is the manner in which many young girls and women preserve
their hymen, but not their chastity. Furthermore, a woman lacks the same mental
satisfaction because, whether her orgasm is caused digitally or not, she prefers
to feel the male organ nestling within her.
One might conclude that, although digital contact with the clitoris involves the
majority of women, there still remain a substantial number, the highly
passionate, for whom digital contact may be held to a minimum or ignored
completely on the ground that the entire internal and external genital region is
super sensitively independent of the clitoris. Unfortunately, that conclusion is
arrived at only by completely ignoring the facts.
In the first place, most men married to highly passionate women are not
necessarily more informed than those married to other types. One might almost
assume that the majority of men know more about the appendix than they do about
the clitoris. Those involved with highly passionate women have even less reason
to know, because practically any spot they touch within the genital area is
sensitive, and they have little cause especially to search for the clitoris.
They know also that their partners go into all manner of ecstasies as soon as
the penis is inserted; they know, too, that their ejaculation produces a rise in
the emotions of their partners, and they frequently assume she is enjoying her
In this connection there are women who will react violently whether the male
orgasm occurs at the beginning of the intercourse or at the end. There are
others who, when for reasons of safety it becomes necessary for the male to
withdraw, will ask that the semen be ejected on their abdomen or their leg. When
this occurs, they will frequently rise to a greater pitch of excitement than
when the orgasm occurs within them. That does not, however, indicate that they
are attaining their only climax. They remain excited considerably longer, but
their stimulation must be continued by the finger, since it is disagreeable for
the average man to persist too long in intercourse once he has ejaculated.
All this, combined with the fact that most women will not induce a partner to
continue once he has experienced his climax and shows signs of lack of interest,
has resulted in the impression that complete satisfaction is always achieved by
the highly passionate type through the agency of the penis alone. This
conception, of course, is incorrect. It is possible to satisfy a woman solely
with the penis, as will be explained. Unfortunately, however, not every man has
developed the necessary self-control and not every man favors the position
advised to assist it. Even under ideal conditions, there arise situations in
which no man has the power to delay his orgasm. The only answer is digital
contact with the clitoris or other genitals. It might be added, too, that with
respect to the highly passionate, the region of stimulation makes little
difference; it may be the clitoris, the vulva in general, or the vaginal
interior. However, despite the satisfactory sensitivity of the entire area, the
clitoris will nevertheless always produce the strongest sensation in a woman.
From any viewpoint, the male organ plays only a supporting role.
There are three effective methods by which the clitoris may be stimulated
digitally. One is by moving the tip of the finger quickly, but lightly and
uninterruptedly, over the tip of the clitoris. This will cause a more rapid
stimulation and is best used only when the clitoris is sluggish or when the male
wishes to bring on an orgasm rapidly.
The second method is to run the forefinger from tip to base, as previously
described, over the entire clitoris, entering the vagina with the finger and
then withdrawing, returning again in the same manner, just as the penis would
normally do, if it were possible. These strokes, slow, deep, and regular, will
induce the best quality of sensation into the rise-and-fall technique, and will
produce a sensation similar to that induced by the penis, were it able to behave
in this manner.
The third method is to avoid the tip of the clitoris completely and partially
encircle it with the tip of the finger, running the finger back and forth over
the buried portion as if tracing the letter "U." The male starts a little below
the clitoris, alongside and within the small lips, brings his finger up and
around the base and down the other side, retracing the same pattern and doing it
repeatedly. By interspersing this with the second method, an enjoyable variety
of sensation for the female can be introduced into the build-up.
This thought must always be kept in mind by the male who has never concerned
himself with the clitoris. This organ may not respond with sensation immediately
upon contact, and it very definitely will not respond if the lubricating fluid
is not flowing. If, however, proper attention has been given to foreplay, and
the female is not in an unfavorable mood, the fluid will be flowing sufficiently
to permit concentration upon the clitoris.
Nevertheless, a woman who is slow to respond or one who has never experienced
the orgasm may not, and probably will not, develop a sensation at the clitoris
within the first minute or two. This does not mean that the female will not
respond. It is far from rare to be forced to stimulate the clitoris for as long
as five minutes before sensation starts to develop; with a woman who has never
experienced orgasm, twenty minutes to three-quarters of an hour is a normal
length of time to devote to developing this necessary phase of enjoyment. With
these common situations to contend with, it should be quite clear that under no
circumstances could a man ever expect to bring about a female orgasm by the
conventional use of the male organ.
This slow condition in a woman must always be met with persistence and male
determination to conquer this disinterest on nature's part. It can be
conquered—but not by the penis. Furthermore, once a woman experiences a
sensation or orgasm with constancy and frequency, additional climaxes will
definitely follow, because a psychological factor has been removed and the woman
knows she is perfectly normal. Some women can enjoy love-making for hours, can
remain perfectly relaxed, can be touched anywhere on the body, can entertain no
aversion to sex, can have children, and yet never attain a climax or perhaps
have attained only one in their entire sexual life. Once they experience regular
orgasms, however, the period reduces itself to normalcy.
In all these situations of lengthy clitorial stimulation, the male must be
prepared to use artificial lubricants. Of course, sexual feeling between the
partners must also exist. If this is the case and the woman is not frigid, it is
most unlikely that she will fail eventually to enjoy a normal sex life.