The Technique of Coitus
At this point, a word of warning must be given regarding foreplay.
While this preliminary is usually under-extended, it can also be overdone,
particularly where the woman is not disposed to interfere with what she regards
as pleasurable to the male. There is a limit, of course, to a woman's
excitement, and it is characteristic of foreplay that, after a reasonable period
of indulgence, the female level of high emotion is reached. Since no new element
can now be added to increase it except intercourse, it remains stationary. If
foreplay is continued too long thereafter, the woman's excitement begins to
abate and she starts to cool. This will be attended immediately by a natural
diminishing of the lubricating fluid. Since intercourse is always to be preceded
by devoting a certain amount of time adequately to stimulating the clitoris and
vulva generally, even with the highly passionate, the hand will immediately
detect a reduction in the flow of the secretion; the area begins to dry fairly
rapidly. There will be a noticeable change in the texture of the moistness
which, in addition to becoming less abundant, will also lose its slickness and
become definitely thin and watery. The male should then enter into intercourse
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This cooling is only occasional with a highly passionate woman, since it is
difficult to over-provide her with indulgence. It occurs most frequently with
women of lower emotional levels; since they are more speedily satisfied,
excessive foreplay serves as an outlet for their emotion, and they may start
cooling prior to orgasm.
When the male feels that sufficient foreplay has taken place, fifteen minutes
being the minimum unless otherwise directed by the female, he can then turn to
intercourse. He will discover that his partner responds to it immediately.
However, there is nothing mechanical about a sexual relationship, and it is the
male's habit of treating it as such which causes much dissatisfaction and may
ultimately drive the wife to someone who takes it more seriously.
In developing this view, let us start with the highly passionate and consider
first the impediments to their full satisfaction. We know that these women are
quickly aroused and that they have the capacity to enjoy a lengthy foreplay,
although it is not necessary, and to experience a lengthy orgasm. We know, too,
that the male is quick to experience orgasm, which is of short duration, and
quick to abate in excitement. We know further that, unless a woman is completely
satisfied, the result can be irritation and even suffering, neither of which is
conducive to a happy married life. It follows, then, that regardless of his
feelings, capacities, or abilities, all restricted by nature, it is man's duty
to satisfy his mate.
Since such a female has the capacity to enjoy a lengthy foreplay, he must
sustain it. In order to do this, he must refrain from any excessive activity
involving the penis lest he induce an orgasm in himself. Necessarily, therefore,
he must employ largely his mouth and hands. Women in the highly passionate group
are thrown into ecstasies by alternate kissing of the mouth and breast and by
the hands simultaneously passing over the outside and inside of the thighs,
brought up to the groin, and brought down again halfway to the knee. Only
occasionally should the hands move lightly but firmly over the vulva to give the
clitoris a soft but lengthy passing stroke. When the entire finger is passed
over the clitoris, from tip to base, such a stroke is characteristic of the
behavior of the penis. The male should vary this procedure by placing his leg
between both of his partner's and rubbing it up and down over the vulva. This,
of course, creates a friction upon that area, which is sensitive throughout;
many women utilize this contact, leaving the penis unagitated.
In his relations with any woman, a man may employ a variety of stimuli, and can
absorb much of his enjoyment from his partner's excitation and the knowledge
that he is the agency controlling it. Unless she is the type to desire an early
insertion of the penis or unless she has some personal procedure which she
enjoys, the type of foreplay just described can be extended indefinitely.
Highly passionate women are affected by the male organ to an extent unapproached
by any other type. They enjoy pressing it between their breasts, fondling it,
and kissing it. With regard to the latter, it is a rare man who fails to enjoy
this attention and who will not be moved to orgasm by an excess of it. A very
few men, however, do not care for such intimacy. While the vast majority of
highly passionate woman have an intense desire for oral contact with the penis,
most will restrain themselves from a mistaken sense of decency unless encouraged
by their partners, a good percentage of whom set no example from a like fear of
offending the female.
There is absolutely nothing abnormal about this form of indulgence. It is a
natural urge; it is engaged in by more couples than is suspected; and in Europe
is a common practice. Since the lay mind associates everything of an erotic
character with France, and because it is presumed to have had its birth in some
remote French province, this practice has come to be known as the "French
Method," although it is no more common in France than elsewhere. The prejudice
against it exists largely among the lower class, whose males, unfortunately,
represent the most inadequate lovers of any caste. A subsequent chapter is
devoted to a discussion of this behavior.
Once a man engages in intercourse, he can, if there is no interruption in the
rhythm, attain orgasm within a few minutes. But, whether a woman experiences an
individual or a sustained orgasm and whether she be lowly or highly passionate,
it will take her considerably longer. How much longer depends upon the sexual
nature of the woman, but it is unquestionable that it will positively exceed the
time of the male under any circumstances. Consequently, the husband, if he would
prolong the pleasure for his partner, cannot follow his normal inclination.
Obviously he must reduce his rhythm; however, since sensation for his partner
depends upon a continuous flow, stimulation must be effected by some means other
than the penis. The sensation of the male organ lying restfully within the
vagina, while pleasurable, is not ecstatically so and will never produce orgasm
Should the motion be slow and deep each time the penis comes to a rest, a drop
in sensation will result in the highly passionate female, who prefers it to
remain constant. Unlike the lowly and moderately sensitive she can experience
the sensation at a high level for a considerable length of time. It is pointless
to induce a rise and fall of feeling in such a woman when she is capable of
experiencing much more. There is a definite place for the "rise-and-fall"
technique, but it is not the method employed in satisfying a highly passionate
Even a slow deep rhythm will ultimately produce orgasm in the male, because his
own pitch rises higher with each movement until it culminates in the climax.
Also, his partner, in order to maintain the sensation, will herself engage in
motion which affects him in any pause he may make; this, too, is likely to
result in ejaculation for the male. Normally, then, he has four choices if he
wishes to wring from the relationship the last measure of pleasure for his
partner; he can either allow her to do all the work from an above position; he
can proceed with his orgasm and thereafter force himself to continue the motion,
whether with the penis or finger, until his partner is satisfied; he can delay
inserting himself and stimulate her digitally both by means of the clitoris and
other genitalia until she is almost satisfied and then proceed normally with his
own orgasm; or he can insert himself, keep the penis at rest, and stimulate her
digitally at the clitoris, making occasional thrusts with the penis until such
time as he judges appropriate for his own climax.
Now these are specific methods by which any normal man, whatever his degree of
control, can feel certain that he has not only satisfied his partner but has
prolonged her pleasure to its fullest extent and has done it in a perfectly
normal fashion. Furthermore, a man cannot adopt any other procedure and
guarantee the outcome. Those husbands who find themselves hard-pressed to meet
the demands of the highly sensitive group will discover that the foregoing
offers a pracitcal variety of successful technique.
All other types of woman fall into one category—the individual orgasm group. At
least half are sensitive only at the clitoris, and the remainder, although
moderately sensitive elsewhere, are not sufficiently so to alter the problem
involved or the general procedure. From the standpoint of adequate handling by
the male, they represent no actual difficulty, because there is only one simple
way to proceed. Also, since most of these women experience only one orgasm, and
many none at all, one need concern himself solely with producing orgasm in those
who have never achieved it and with increasing the number of climaxes for those
It is a fact that any woman who is not frigid and is physically and mentally
normal is capable of orgasm. A frigid woman is one who, while not perverted,
finds the sex act disagreeable with all men. If a woman is frigid toward one
man, but not toward others, she does not fall into this classification, since
she is capable of orgasm with the object of her desire. In other words, if a
woman enjoys kissing and being kissed and is capable of desire, she is also
capable of orgasm. If she has the capacity for one, she has it for more, the
number depending both upon her nature and her mood. Consequently, it is safe to
assume that any normal woman is capable of .at least two, and the majority of at
least three. It is also probable that the use of a proper technique can operate
to further increase the number.
It has been said that there is only one simple way to proceed with women of the
individual orgasm type. Since their climax is not long sustained, one must
inject as much pleasure as possible in developing it. Furthermore, at least half
of such women are sensitive only at the clitoris. Therefore, it is necessary for
the male to direct his attention only to this spot.
Such women also have the added characteristic of being slow to arouse; this
holds true even of those who can achieve more than one climax. Although they
respond more rapidly to stimulation, they are relatively slow by comparison with
the highly passionate. It is practicable to consider them in the same category
as the others in discussing procedure.
The climax achieved by such women is of short duration. Consequently, much of
their pleasure must be crowded into the first part of the actual intercourse,
the development of the orgasm. This is achieved only by the "rise-and-fall"
technique. Although an incredible number of women have never experienced the
sensation of orgasm, it will be expedient to proceed as if the sensation of
climax could be achieved by all.
Those who have attained it are familiar with the constantly rising sensation of
pleasure which starts in the genital area, specifically at the clitoris and, if
not interrupted, builds to the orgasm. Since the orgasm is nothing more than
this sensation at its apex, even its start is naturally not without intense
enjoyment. The rise-and-fall technique consists of bringing the sensation to the
point just before it explodes into the orgasm, then breaking it off, allowing it
to descend of its own accord, and then repeating the process either until the
woman begins to cool or until she expresses a desire for the climax.
Since half the group is sensitive only to clitoral stimulation, and since the
clitoris is also the strongest center of sensation in the other half, it is
essential to concentrate upon this organ. Because the clitoris generally can be
contacted by the penis only with the greatest discomfort, if at all, the only
practical instrument with which to induce sensation is the finger, with the
penis occupying a place of secondary importance as a physical stimulant and of
primary importance as a mental one.
Even those women who have no sexual feeling whatever within the vagina are
excited by the introduction of the male organ. Although its entrance produces
absolutely no sensation, the knowledge that one of the most intimate of
positions exists is sufficient to create an upsurge of passion, and an orgasm by
the female under such conditions is more intense than if induced merely by the
finger itself. Consequently, the female orgasm and part of the build-up to it
should always take place with the penis inserted, regardless of how much
pre-clitoral stimulation was induced digitally.
The proper procedure to create the greatest amount of pleasure for the female,
both in length of time and intensity, is to start inducing the rise and fall of
sensation exclusively by the finger. It is not difficult to determine the point
just beyond which the female orgasm will occur. As sensation increases the woman
begins to vibrate and to raise the genital area gradually as if to establish a
greater contact between the clitoris and the finger.
Although she feels that the greater the pressure, the greater will be the
intensity of the sensation, she does not realize that too great a pressure will
have the opposite effect. The same pressure which induced the sensation from the
beginning is to be maintained throughout. As she raises the genitals, and the
vibrations become of a quivering nature, the stroking of the clitoris should be
interrupted immediately, whereupon she will sink back to her original position.
As soon as this has occurred, the procedure should be repeated at once; this
time, it will be observed that the sensation develops almost instantaneously,
that it is much stronger, and that she vibrates and raises the genital region
more pronouncedly than before.
Clitoral contact is again interrupted, and a longer pause ensues. If the contact
stages follow each other too closely, she will attain orgasm. The male's sole
purpose is to create as many of these up-and-down sensations as possible without
carrying them so far as to bring about a climax. The first pause should
approximate five seconds; the second eight seconds; the third, ten seconds; the
fourth, twelve seconds.
After perhaps the fifth rise, the male may allow a substantial interruption of
about a minute or a minute and a half, this time allowing his partner thoroughly
to subside. Thereafter he can re-initiate this routine, always watching for
signs of cooling. Then, following ten or fifteen of such responses, it is
appropriate to introduce the penis and engage in the conventional in-and-out
rhythm which will gradually bring the male to the same stage of excitement as
his partner. Should the man be the active type and should the woman be
moderately sensitive throughout the vulva, digital contact with the clitoris may
be abandoned. Should the woman be sensitive only at the clitoris, the man must
continue to stimulate it because, regardless of the movement made by the male
organ, absolutely no physical sensation will be induced in the vagina by the
Once the man is situated within his partner, the couple may then experience
orgasm as it appeals to them. The female will now feel less inclined to prolong
the act, and the orgasms may be achieved simultaneously or separately, as the
couple wish. Either way, such intercourse is perfect, with both attaining
climax, and the woman having enjoyed a pre-period of pleasurable stimulation.
Under conditions involving women of the type now being described, this is the
only proper and practicable manner in which to conduct intercourse which will be
certain to satisfy the female.
Digital contact with the clitoris should always be carefully maintained. This is
most important, because the height, frequency, and quality of the rise-and-fall
sensation, as well as the intensity of the orgasm, is completely dependent upon
the character of the contact exerted by the finger. Too firm a pressure will
definitely decrease the sensation, if not destroy it completely. Too light a
contact, though far better than too heavy, will not develop the sensation to its
fullest intensity. The contact must be firm enough to trace practically the
entire clitoris from the area lying just beneath the surface to the tip.
The tip of an erected clitoris, being unprotected by its sheath, is
ultra-sensitive. For that reason it may occur that a direct touch upon it will
produce at times an involuntary body-jerking on the part of the female. When
this happens, attention should be directed at its base and at least a half
minute to a minute allowed before again attempting to contact the tip itself.
Experience will develop the precise technique.
Since the intercourse has now been discussed in detail, it is well to enlarge
upon a matter previously referred to, the possibility of increasing the number
of individual climaxes for a woman. Any woman who is capable of one climax is
capable of several, for generally a single orgasm is not too severe a drain upon
the female nervous system. It does not last sufficiently long to tax it, and is
not accompanied by the loss of vital fluid or the strain upon the manufacturing
processes of that fluid which attends the male climax. Since the orgastic
reaction of all men is practically identical, and since it varies so extensively
in women, it cannot be intended that it should impose a greater strain upon some
than others, but rather that it should express itself differently with different
women. Regardless of the past sexual experience of a normal woman, there is
gener: ally room for improvement.
This problem, of course, involves only women of low responsiveness, those whose
stimulative capacities lie largely at the clitoris. It has been previously
explained how to conduct intercourse properly with such a type. But it is to be
emphasized that the male must delay his orgasm until he is certain that the
woman has achieved her ultimate climax or that she has been sufficiently
satisfied to wish to conclude the relationship. The male determines that the
final orgasm has been achieved by continuing to stimulate the clitoris. If,
following a minute or so of this procedure, the female fails to respond as
previously, or is seized with a series of body-jerkings, he should ask her if
she still experiences sensation there. If the answer is negative, the woman is
However, there are occasions when a man will have difficulty restimulating a
woman following a prior orgasm; when she will assert upon questioning that the
sensation has disappeared; but when persistence on his part may result in a
renewal of sensation and the occurrence of several additional orgasms. This
condition usually exists in the early stages, after the second or third climax.
But should it occur after the fourth or fifth, the male may conclude that the
woman is satisfied, although it will do no harm to persist for another minute.
It is to be remembered that clitoral stimulation should be discontinued
immediately and a pause taken whenever a woman exhibits the jerking, twitching
movements previously referred to.
In striving to increase the capacity of a one-orgasm woman, the male must delay
his orgasm until she has experienced her first climax. This is not difficult.
The relationship is conducted with the customary observance of foreplay and the
build-up to the orgasm by means of the rise-and-fall technique. When he decides
that the time is propitious for the first female orgasm, the male inserts
himself as deeply as possible, pressing his genital region tightly against that
of his partner, holding this position, and maintaining a constant digital
contact with the clitoris. His object now is to bring on the female orgasm as
rapidly as possible. He will observe also that the female exerts a similar
pressure against him. As soon as the first female orgasm has occurred, he should
discontinue digital contact at the first manifestation of the body-jerking. He
must reduce the pressure of the male organ, allowing it to assume a more relaxed
position in the vagina, and wait at least thirty seconds before attempting to
induce a second climax.
The second and all subsequent orgasms should be developed much in the same
manner as the first, but without resort to the rise-and-fall procedure. This is
used only in connection with the build-up to the first orgasm. It is difficult
enough to induce subsequent climaxes without placing an additional strain upon
them, and all future orgasms should be brought about as rapidly as possible. The
penis should again penetrate as deeply as it can, but the male should maintain
an increasing pressure as if trying to enter further and further, and at the
same time agitate the tip of the clitoris, with the finger moving unceasingly
and as rapidly as possible. Should his partner suddenly be seized with
body-jerking, he should reduce the pressure of the forefinger, discontinue the
stimulation for twenty-five or thirty seconds, and then proceed as before. The
second orgasm will not last so long as the former nor be so intense; the first
is usually the strongest, the remainder becoming shorter and weaker, although
In summary, the four principal and necessary elements in inducing additional
orgasms above one, are to bring them on as quickly as possible, to maintain
constant digital contact, to make the finger movement as rapid as possible, and
to exert genital pressure against the female genitals.
Since access to the clitoris by the finger is more difficult when the genital
areas are pressed firmly together, it is best to experiment the first few times
with the male organ lying outside the vagina. Induce the first orgasm by digital
means exclusively, maintaining the contact as long as the climax endures. When
it shows a tendency to subside, allow it to do so, wait a half minute, and then
repeat the process. The partner should ask if the female experiences any
build-up sensation. It she does, even though it cannot be brought to an
immediate climax, the couple know that subsequent orgasms are not only possible
but probable, and that later relationships will produce them. If difficulty is
experienced with the penis lying outside the vagina, it should be inserted. The
female may need just that added mental stimulus to achieve a climax. It
frequently happens that such women, while experiencing the build-up sensation,
cannot be brought to a climax without the introduction of the penis, although
most females can be induced to multiple orgasms by the finger alone. However, no
climax will ever be as intense for a woman, although it may be for a man, as
when the male organ lies within the vagina.
Notwithstanding all that has been said with respect to the lowly sensitive or
those whose sensitivity is located exclusively in the clitoris, time offers a
hopeful possibility to partners who are patient. It frequently occurs that after
many years of constant association, a woman who previously required digital
stimulation to attain a climax, may suddenly respond to the penis.
There are actually two elements concerned in this transition : technique and
deepening affection. When two persons—whose life together has been
satisfactory—advance in years, a strong bonding agent develops and cements their
ties more closely together. Various factors influence this, of which the
strongest is habit. A man who is accustomed to returning from work each evening
and finding a neat wife with a pleasant smile and a warm kiss, has no reason or
desire to avoid his home. In fact, he looks forward to this nightly reunion.
Should he feel in an amorous mood, he knows beforehand that a period of
lovemaking will be just as welcome to his wife. At least, incompatibility
doesn't add to his normal outside problems.
Can the average woman see her importance and responsibility in this domestic
picture? Can she see the contrast in a scene wherein a husband is greeted by an
untidy, nagging shrew whose complaints begin as soon as he crosses the
threshold? Can she see that it is largely up to her to keep the matrimonial ship
on an even keel?
Of course, many women will rise in protest and argue, "Well, how about the
duties of a husband? Supposing he arrives ready for an argument? What are we
supposed to do, take it?"
Certainly. A wife is supposed to take it. If it were intended that she fight
back like another man, she might as well be one. A woman was meant to be soft
and flexible, not a battling Amazon. A man is attracted by a woman's gentleness;
not by the qualities of a spit-fire. The world has always been too full of male
hostility. That's what is wrong with it— man's inhumanity to man. Any woman who
seeks to justify her participation in it, is seriously lacking in feminine
virtue. During time of war a woman's role is primarily that of a comforter. No
man would care to see her shouldering a rifle. It would be out of place. And her
belligerence is equally out of place in the home.
It must be remembered that only in fairly recent years have women been competing
so extensively with men, assuming their place in the world. And never has the
divorce rate been higher. Originally, the home and the rearing of her children
were her principal responsibilities. The problem of providing the daily bread
belonged to the man. It was an excellent and practical arrangement. While she
may have been physically tired at the end of the day, it was recognized that the
physical and mental problems concerned with earning a living were the more
Consequently, one of her wifely duties was to provide for the male comfort and
relaxation. In fact, in the old world that is still the fashion, even among
women of wealth and station. Basically, despite the release from drudgery
brought about by modern methods, it still remains one of her primary functions.
The woman who feels that she is entitled to yell back at a grouchy husband, is
simply unwomanly. She is a misfit in the natural order of things.
True, it might be annoying to greet with a smile a sullen, disagreeable mate.
But if she possesses the feminine tact about which she will probably boast, and
forget about the philosophy of equal rights, she can manage to soothe his
irritation and eventually work him around to an amiable frame of mind. A clever
wife can and will do this.
Naturally, this does not refer to some surly, loudmouthed brute who immediately
upon entering the house pours forth vicious abuse or slams his way from room to
room. Any wife who remains with such a man for a protracted period, regardless
of economic necessity, deserves whatever mistreatment she receives. Reference is
made only to a husband who may be quarrelsome on occasion as the result of
outside aggravations. For a woman to reciprocate will not improve the situation
at all. It can only make it worse. An intelligent wife realizes this and assumes
the task of improving his mood. If he is a reasonable man, she will succeed.
Otherwise, she maintains a judicious silence and waits for his irritability to
A home life based upon this type of womanly and wifely consideration, must
eventually produce firm compatibility. As the years pass, constancy draws the
couple closer and closer together until an unbreakable structure, solidly
cemented with love, is erected. Meanwhile, the children are growing up, and the
parents know them for another link binding the marriage even more securely. The
husband reflects upon his wife's uncomplaining cooperation in the past and
realizes he has been, indeed, blessed. The wife recalls his struggles to provide
her with comfort and security, and is also grateful. At this point, love reaches
its full maturity.
It is, now, when mutual devotion is at its highest level, that the transition
previously referred to, takes place. Being a woman of a lowly sensitive sexual
nature, her climaxes throughout the past necessitated digital stimulation of the
clitoris, entirely, to bring them about. Her husband, properly, had always
utilized this technique with the male organ inserted. Every two or three months,
perhaps, he would attempt to induce his wife's orgasm by means of penis rhythm
alone but never succeeded. Then, one night, for no apparent reason, the ultimate
occurs. His wife attains the majority of her climaxes without benefit of digital
stimulation. From then on, it becomes a fairly consistent happening, not always
to be fully relied upon, but probable during four out of five relationships.
In considering the technique to be employed, it must be emphasized that complete
digital stimulation of the clitoris can never be abandoned. The woman is still a
member of the lowly sensitive group and will always remain one. Digital contact
is vital, at least, to bring such a wife to the point of orgasm. Let us examine
the procedure involved in this situation step by step.
First of all, the proper divisions of foreplay must be carefully observed with a
lowly sensitive woman. As has been set down, during the first half of foreplay
the husband ignores the genitals almost completely and devotes himself to the
other areas of the female body. He may, however, if he thinks it necessary, lay
his right leg between those of his wife, and by moving it up and down attempt to
generate some friction in his partner's genital zone. He may even spread the
lips of the vulva with his fingers so that his leg lays directly upon the
membrane rather than the epidermis of the lips. Beyond this, there is no hand
contact directly with the genital area during the first half of foreplay.
It should be mentioned also, that unless a man is left handed, preliminary love
making should always be conducted from the right side of a woman. This gives the
corresponding hand of the male—the hand that operates with better
The second half of foreplay concerns itself with digital excitation of the
clitoris. During this phase, if a husband is doubtful of his wife's progress,
she should be asked to tell him when she is ready to experience the orgasm.
Since she knows her precise state of emotion, she usually remarks at the
appropriate moment, "I can have it any time now."
Since the husband is dealing with a multi-orgasm woman (in past years, he has
conditioned her to attain more than one climax), he ignores the "rise and fall"
technique and inserts himself from the "man above" position. The shifting of the
bodies necessary to assume this, forces him to abandon the clitoris, as a result
of which his partner's emotion drops to some degree. Normally, this readjustment
would have made it necessary for him to re-stimulate the clitoris, perhaps, for
another minute from the new position until his wife achieved her previous level
of excitation and was again prepared for orgasm. Now, however, he ignores this
organ and penetrates the vagina as deeply as possible. He allows the penis to
remain there, and holds both pubic regions firmly together. Maintaining this
contact, he attempts to revolve the penis in a circular motion.
If his wife is ready for the transition, an increasing level of emotion that he
recognizes as a new element is her reactions, clearly manifests itself.
Withdrawing and re-entering slowly, he repeats the previous cycle for a second
and third time. He observes on each occasion a rising tide of excitation. Then,
gradually increasing the tempo to a rapid movement, he proceeds with the
in-and-out rhythm until his partner experiences her first orgasm.
Since little more than a minute has transpired during this new undertaking, his
own climax is well under control. Consequently, simultaneous orgasms can be
experienced at the time of any of his wife's subsequent climaxes.
Following his partner's first orgasm, the husband should pause from 30 seconds
to a minute before attempting to induce a second. Then, he proceeds immediately
with a deep, brisk, forward and backward rhythm. The second orgasm will occur
within 15 seconds and will be shorter and less intense. Thereafter, subsequent
climaxes are to be brought about in the same manner and will be found to reduce
themselves in strength until the maximum is reached.
The first orgasm is always the longest and strongest, varying in time from 45
seconds to l/2 minutes. Those following rarely extend beyond 15 seconds, and the
pauses taken in between by the husband, become relatively longer with each
As a previous chapter has explained, it is unnecessary to utilize the "rise and
fall" foreplay with a multi-orgasm woman, although it is not forbidden. It is a
matter of choice. But with a wife capable of only one climax, it should not be
neglected. However, if a husband of the latter wishes to experiment for the
purpose of discontinuing digital clitoral contact during the orgasm, he, too,
should abandon the "rise and fall" technique and utilize the penis immediately.
In the event he fails and must revert to his former procedure, the following
modification may be introduced: while inserted, the husband, as usual, engages
in digital clitoral stimulation. Upon the customary sudden, convulsive embrace
he receives from his wife as her climax begins, he can discontinue clitoral
excitation and utilize the rapid in-and-out motion. He may also achieve his own
orgasm if he wishes.
At the conclusion, his partner should advise him whether any decrease in
sensation occurred when he discontinued clitoral stimulation. If none did, the
probability is strong that further conditioning will enable her to respond
eventually with a minimum of clitoral excitation.
The question now arises as to why, after years of climaxes dependent upon
clitoral stimulation, orgasm suddenly occurs without it. The basic element is
the deepening of affection that has been taking place between the marriage
partners throughout this prolonged period. As we all know, much of our sexual
emotion is based upon mental excitation. As man and woman reach their peak of
mutual affection, a wife feels more closely bound to her husband than ever.
During the sex act, this feeling is particularly strong and translates itself
into mental excitement. This added to the physical stimulation taking place in
the genital area by the deep thrust of the penis, has sufficient force to
increase the usual sexual emotion beyond its normal pitch. The result is that
this additional mental stimulation works sympathetically upon the clitoral area,
the area of sexual sensation, and upsets the normal balance of stimulation and
resistance. Orgasm results. But it must be emphasized that this transition comes
about only when the male and female ultimately realize that their union has been
a successful one.
The suggestions laid down herein have practical value. They are specific and
constitute definite and precise intercourse techniques. They have taken into
consideration the sexual natures of women in general and in particular. And they
are well within the capabilities of any normal husband who is interested in
performing his sexual duties unselfishly and competently.