The Sexual Reactions of The Male
Much has been written about the sexual emotions and habits of the
female, but very little, by comparison, about the male. This is not surprising
since, from the standpoint of psychology and physical structure, woman is by far
the more interesting and complicated of the sexes. Man, on the other hand, is a
relatively simple sexual machine, running on a single track and headed in only
one direction. All men could easily have been stamped out and assembled on the
same production line so far as their sexual emotions propel them, so far as
their capabilities exist for satisfying themselves, and so far as their
capacities for giving satisfaction extend.
Man sees a woman and immediately desires her. Within one minute he can
automatically sustain an erection, within two minutes can experience orgasm, and
within three minutes can be sound asleep. That is the skeleton of his sexual
individuality. Men vary, of course, but their variations are slight and only
such as are to be expected. Consequently, there is little to be said about the
sexual behavior of the normal man.
One does not think of erogenous zones in connection with a man, because for all
practical purposes he has only two: the mouth and the penis. As with a woman, it
is true that any area of the male body in contact with that of a female part
will induce desire if the couple is denied privacy. In bed, however, bodily
contact localizes itself.
Generally speaking, a man is stimulated by a woman's mouth anywhere, but by her
hand only at the genitals. Specifically, the neck, mouth, breast nipples, waist,
groin, genitals, and inside thigh are responsive only to oral contact. The ear
and shoulder are not to be considered. Practically speaking, unless a woman goes
out of her way to stimulate her husband, which few unfortunately do, the only
erogenous zones brought into play are the mouth arid genitals. Man is the
exploratory creature, and the preponderance of his pre-intercourse excitement
comes from handling the female.
The entire male sex is, as a rule, easily and readily aroused. Although
preferring to spend a few minutes in exploring the female body, any man can
successfully engage in intercourse after a minute of intimate contact with his
partner. Orgasm can be attained easily within two minutes, and is usually not
sustained longer than three-quarters of a minute. A man experiences no more than
one true orgasm during a relationship; should he sustain more, it is only
because the first was incomplete. Such an occurrence will take place not more
than once in a hundred acts of intercourse. In fact, it is doubtful that the
average man will experience three double orgasms in an entire lifetime.
Abatement is almost immediate; within a minute or less, he is thoroughly cooled.
Although he may occasionally feel exhausted following orgasm and lie completely
limp and relaxed, this is not a state of emotion. It is a state of recuperation.
Once the fever of the male has subsided, further sexual intimacy for the period
is disagreeable. He loses with absolute completeness all sexual desire for the
woman at his side. Even his kisses are an effort and a forced, insincere
expression of sexual feeling. Anything further he may do is the result purely of
a sense of duty and not emotion. Frequently he wonders why he was cursed with
desire, since it is such a relief to feel calm and composed. Now, he wishes only
to be left alone.
||FRONTAL SECTION OF MALE GENITALIA
||4. Fibrous Coat
||7. Glans Penis
||8. Vas Deferens
||10. Seminal Vesicle
In connection with a repeated intercourse, the average man is capable of
restimulation within a period of from fifteen minutes to an hour. Sometimes the
second orgasm is more intense; sometimes it is not. However, the second can be
delayed for a lengthy period with practically no effort, since the initial
emotional stage obviously is not so high. Although there are occasions on which
every man has indulged the desire for a repeated relationship, such occasions
are rare and are deleterious to male health. It is more frequent for a woman to
desire a repetition. When this occurs, it is because she was not completely
satisfied in the first place, although it does happen occasionally that repeated
intimacy may be wanted for its own sake.
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As is to be expected, passion is a varying element among males, as it is among
females, but it is limited to eagerness and to behavior during the orgasm. The
majority of men are reasonably gentle; the rhythm they maintain is moderate.
There is a large group, however, who behave as though they would tear a woman
apart, and some in fact do occasionally cause vaginal bleeding. The rhythm,
then, varies from a slow, deep penetration to a furious battering, but the
majority engage in a brisk, energetic movement of moderate depth.
The build-up is a tickling sensation that starts in the head of the penis, seems
to run completely up the organ as it gathers a pleasurable intensity, and then
bursts with a series of convulsive and uncontrollable spurting expansions and
contractions as the male sperm is ejaculated. The male exhibits a tendency to
accelerate the tempo of his rhythm as a climax approaches in an endeavor to
bring it on with a rush. As soon as the spurting has ceased, the male has the
desire to relax, and it is this reaction, if he succumbs to it, which leaves his
One fact should be emphasized. Once climax has been attained, if it is of the
individual orgasm type, such as it is with the male, passion abates rapidly for
both men and women. There is one difference, however. Whereas the male now
prefers to forget the relationship as quickly as possible, a woman is not averse
to and, indeed, prefers, a measure of petting as if to be assured that her
husband's affection for her is just as deep as it appeared to be some minutes
previously. The thoughtful male, then, will drop off to sleep with his arms
about his wife and will continue to hold her close until such time as she is
inclined to fall asleep. That is the proper finale. Every woman resents deeply
the brusque tendency of the male to say "Good Night" wearily and turn over on
his side. All the physical attraction created during the preceding interval is
immediately cancelled by such indifference. A woman may never complain about
this. She may complain about the roughness of his beard, and even this she will
do timidly and apologetically, but rarely about his sexual oversights. Certain
behaviors the male himself must remember, because a woman will hesitate to
Perhaps the greatest variation among men is their behavior during the orgasm.
Like women, some burst into sobbing, others shake their head violently and utter
cries which may be heard in adjoining rooms, others whimper softly. These are
the highly passionate type and represent the minority. The remainder react
generally the same. Some may pant more violently than others, but usually, the
orgasm results in a deep breathing as if the male had totally exhausted himself,
which for the moment he has.
If a male is breathing heavily during the build-up, it is sometimes difficult
for a woman to determine when he has reached the climax. Of course, she never
has any trouble detecting the orgasm of the highly passionate, but with one who
is more reserved in his behavior, particularly if contraceptive devices are
being used or if the vagina is not sensitive, it is almost impossible to
determine the orgastic point.
Man's sexual ignorance is largely the cause of the incompatibility so prominent
today. However, his chief error is one of omission rather than commission, and
since faults of the former are usually the lesser of the two evils, they are the
more easily corrected. Compared sexually with woman, nature has smiled upon him.
He is quickly aroused and certain to be satisfied, but woman has been
constructed as a complete opposite. Indeed, two natures could hardly be less
compatible than the sexual natures of man and woman. Therefore, it is not
remarkable that sexual incompatibility exists as a constant threat, since nature
seems purposefully to have done all she can to encourage it. How important to
matrimonial permanence, then, is the need for proper sexual adjustment !